by Evie Anderson

It’s hard to ask for help. I’ve felt that strongly in my three years of widowhood. I have always been self-sufficient and a little stubborn… so have felt I should be able to do things for myself.

But now it is different. There’s no one to answer those dozens of little questions and help solve those big and little problems. The neighbors are busy with their jobs and families, and the kids must be getting tired of all my computer, car, and household repair questions.

My neighbors have all said, ”Let us know if there’s anything I can do.” So I took a deep breath and created a text group of four couples. Each time I send a message, someone comes through. What’s interesting is that they act like I am doing them a favor by asking!

Asking for help is the topic on June 14 at the Downtown Minneapolis Coalition for Grief Support, but there’s something good every Saturday. Each week, people who have experienced grief or loss gather at one of the nearby churches to learn about grief and resilience through speakers and small groups (for those who have experienced the loss of a spouse, a son or daughter, or a friend or other family member). Hennepin Avenue UMC is one of nine member churches who alternate hosting. Currently, St. Mark’s Episcopal Cathedral hosts the group. It starts at 10am every Saturday with a 30-minute presentation followed by the small groups. No RSVP is needed. For current speakers and topics, and more information on the Coalition, go to www.mplsgriefsupport.com